9/22/2010

Using a Book to Open a Conversation - Banned Book Week Guest Blog 3

We asked Laura Manivong, author of Escaping the Tiger to write guest blog for us during our month long "celebration" of banned books.  Escaping the Tiger has an on going theme of censorship through it's story and we wanted to see what she had to say on the topic, and Laura did not disappoint.   Laura's blog bellow embodies the PTB idea of what a book should be, it should be a stepping stone to opening a conversation.  So thank you Laura for this great illustration of our feelings!

When I received the advance reader’s copy of my novel, I told my daughter she couldn’t read it—yet. Perhaps in a year or so. She was only 8 ½ , and I wasn’t sure she could appreciate or process the gritty realities my characters face, realities that are based, in part, on her father’s childhood escape from Communist Laos. But she sneaked the arc and read it anyway.

Of course she did. It was forbidden fruit.

I caught her about three chapters in and decided if she was willing to read it, I’d be there to guide her. We talked on the way home from school one day. I asked her how the book was going.

“Fine,” she said.

“Is it scaring you at all?”

“No.”

“Well, do you have any questions?”

“No.”

I’d have to do better than that. Asking yes-or-no questions is no way to start a conversation. “Daughter, do you know why the Communist soldiers burned Vonlai’s favorite book, the one about American skyscrapers?”

“No,” she said.

My fault. I asked another yes-or-no question. So I went into lecture mode. “Daughter, they didn’t want Vonlai forming his own thoughts about America. They wanted him to think just like they did, without learning anything for himself. That’s how people try to control other people, is to limit the information they get.”

And she was quiet. I checked my rearview mirror. She was staring out the window. Nice one, Mom, I thought. You’re babbling about censorship and your kid probably wants to go get an ice cream or something.

“But Mom,” she said, still watching the trees flash by as we drove home. “Vonlai’s dad told him they can’t burn what’s in your mind.”

The heavens parted. The angels sang. And God sent me his smile right through my sunroof, dressed as a golden ray of sunshine. She got it, I thought. My baby girl, who I thought wasn’t mature enough to appreciate the themes in my novel, got the most important part.

Of course she did. She’s the one who sought out the very book I’d banned.

~ by Laura Manivong

To learn more about Escaping the Tiger and Laura, check out her web page LauraManivong.com and read Stacey's review of Escaping the Tiger.
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15 Feedback:

  1. Now that is an impressive post and a life lesson. Wow. Wow. You have left me speechless.

    Fangs, Wands and Fairy Dust
    email: steph@fangswandsandfairydust.com
    Twitter: @fangswandsfairy

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  2. Steph sent me over - wow - what a kid and what a mom!

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  3. I just wrote a post sending people to read this, and tweeted and referred people to this post on facebook. I am thinking of a billboard. This is so wonderful I want everyone one to see it on THIS blog.

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  4. Wow. That is SO inspiring, and it makes such a good point! Thanks for sharing! :D

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  5. Quite often our children "hear" much more than they lead us to believe. Thanks for the post on this Steph!

    Paula
    Tomes Devotee

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  6. From the mouths of babes! Lovely post -- thank you for sharing. I so appreciate Ms Manivong's attitude, too: talking to your children about what they read!

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  7. I end up reading lots of YA, PNR without moaning! But what I often say is that parents should use these books as a way to open a dialogue. Books, and the subjects they raise and bring to light are a great way to talk to a teen without the words you can't, or don't!
    Fangs, Wands and Fairy Dust
    email: steph@fangswandsandfairydust.com
    twitter: @fangswandsfairy

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  8. Great post Laura...and will remember to ask open-ended questions.

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  9. Excellent point. Beautifully said.

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  10. Fantastic post, Laura! I linked it over at my blog (onemomsworld.wordpress.com). What a great example of what parents should be doing when kids read. Awesome.

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  11. Wow, you guys...your enthusiasm is WONDERFUL. I'm so grateful Page Turners invited me to post on this topic. Thanks for sharing your thoughts here, everyone!

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  12. children are wiser than we give them credit. they "soak up" information and form complex associations. what they lack in judgement comes (hopefully) with experience. that your daughter was able to be so articulate, however, is quite extraordinary.

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  13. Thank you, Seraphine...I'm certainly a proud mama!

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  14. This was a wise lesson, maybe one I could use in my research essay about banned books!

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